Whenever you become emotional it might help not to react in the moment but delay yourself by distracting your mind with something else. When you’re feeling calmer then try to analyze the issue logically, and you will find the outcome is likely to be more positive. The first point is that you’re already his wife so if you want to define him as yours and you his, well he is already yours. Secondly you were only married a short while ago, and it is only natural that you are both going to have some adjustments to make. It may well be that you are trying too hard to create the perfect love story that it may be irritating your husband.