Hakeem Ibn Hazam (Radhiyallahu Anhu) used to request the Prophet’s help, knowing that he did not refuse anyone. After giving him several occasions, He said to him a few words that are highly significant. Hakeem (Radhiyallahu Anhu) quotes the words: The upper hand is better than the lower one. Start with your dependents. The best charity is that which is taken from what is in excess of one’s needs. Whoever seeks to be contented, Allah will grant him contentment, and whoever seeks to be self-sufficient will have Allah’s help in being so. (Bukhari).